Take a look in your pants. Is that a pussy? You’re on the wrong site.
When I created NeverQuitIt.com I made the decision to write for men. I could’ve reached a wider audience but essentially I did that same check, and found there’s definitely a penis in my pants.
This means I’m ill equipped to offer women advice on how to lead a successful and fulfilling life. And it does leave me over-endowed to explain how I have found success in being a man.
An unapologetic, yet considerate man.
Men and women are different. Vastly different and I can sort of understand why you might believe they come from different planets. Men do not understand women, and women do not understand men. This causes confusion when you look for advice on a topic, and turn to your Mother, Sisters, or female friends. They will offer advice, but it’s likely the wrong advice.
I once met an author by the name of JJ Roberts. He was in the process of writing his book Sex 3.0. In the book he details why current relationships are flawed and offers a new system that he can explain best. If you’re interested, I highly recommend it. Not too far into the book he points out a key difference between men and women, and that is our genetic imperatives.
Women will become pregnant and carry a baby for 9 months. Meaning they will not produce another viable egg for 9-10 months providing the pregnancy goes full term.
However, men can produce sperm all day long. If there were enough willing women you could easily make 10 babies a day. (Good luck with the child support though champ.)
JJ Roberts states that during the 9-10 month pause before becoming fertile again a woman requires more care, becomes more vulnerable and less mobile. Therefore it is no wonder that a woman’s biological imperative is to seek security from a strong male.
Men don’t have that. Once we’ve made the baby we’re on to making the next one. This is the way we are set up. See where I’m going with this?
The problem comes in when you, as a man, agree to society’s rules. Women will of course attempt to complete their biological imperative and find a man who is physically and/or financially secure. Someone who can provide best for her and the child. You’ll do the dating thing, which is great, then you’ll get in a relationship, and before you’re legally locked in by marriage you’re already locked in with emotions.
I can’t tell you if relationships are right for you, but I can tell you my experience as a man.
I meet a girl, I like a girl, we spend time together, have sex, and have fun. Some point down the line I will meet another girl. Even if it’s not sexual*… I’m enjoying this new girl’s company and that makes the first girl extremely jealous. Now if the first girl has done her job and made me agree to a relationship then I’d be cheating or breaking hearts by sleeping with anyone else.
(* More on that later)
If you want to live like a man, I’d advise you not to get into a relationship. Not like that anyway. Read JJ Robert’s Sex 3.0 book if you need more relationship advice. Remember who’s biological imperative it is by getting in that relationship. You are a man. Your natural duty is to go forth and fuck. If you can be content with that one girl for the rest of your life – more power to you. Personally, for me, it’s never worked out.
Understand that this urge inside of you to sleep with other women, view pornography, flirt with females in your everyday life and just be around other women is the natural urge of being a man. Do not apologise for it.
You are a man. No apology needed.
*I inserted this note to briefly explain that men need more than just sex from women. The connection between men and women does not always require sex and, especially as I’ve got older it has been less and less involving sex. I’ll make a full post about this later but women are able to give a certain energy to your life that male acquaintances can’t. As I said, I’ll post about this later. Subscribe via email if you wish.
A Woman’s Point Of View
If any women ignored me earlier and are still reading this, I can hear your argument from here but you’re forgetting one thing… just as I admitted to being unable to give women advice, you are a woman therefore you do not understand what it feels like to be a man in a relationship.
HBO released a documentary in 1999 called “Private Dicks”. You don’t need to watch it. Essentially it’s a group of guys talking about their dicks and showing them off. One part that is interesting though is when they interview a female (now male) who has received testosterone treatment. I can’t recall the name but for ease of clarification rather than saying he or she I’ll call them Alex.
In the interview Alex states:
“Having been a female and been a feminist and listening to the rhetoric that ‘men can control themselves’ and ‘men can do this’… you know what? No. Testosterone is a really powerful, powerful hormone. It causes certain physiological changes in bodies. You can’t control the fact that you’ve got a raging hard on 24 hours a day. That’s just testosterone.”
Alex now knows that men have a NATURAL urge. When a man walks past a woman in the street and she’s attractive he will look. Even if his wife is beside him. He can’t control that and women are wrong for trying to punish you for that. It is a natural instinct the same as closing your eyes when the wind whistles in your face.
Why don’t women like this site or it’s advice?
Women don’t like me. Women don’t like this site. Women don’t like what I’m trying to achieve. Women will complain that there aren’t enough fit, successful, interesting and valuable guys out there… yet discourage men from reading a site which focuses on self improvement for anyone who is not quite where they want to be.
This is because women aren’t happy with a man improving himself. They will word it different and probably say he’s pretending to be something that he is not… But not every man was born naturally good at everything.
Not every sprinter can run 200m in under 20 seconds and not every man is born a natural with money, women, success or good looks. Usain Bolt has spent years practicing, studying and training to complete 200 in less than 20. Women believe this is fine in athletics but consider it ‘fake’ when men attempt to improve themselves in a way like this website offers.
Women don’t like my advice because they can’t understand it from their female perspective, and they don’t like the thought of men improving themselves as somehow they believe it is trickery to improve your personality.
I’m not attempting to make this a boys-only-treehouse-club but women don’t understand when I give advice to a man that he shouldn’t get involved in a monogamous relationship. My experience is that the relationship will end and cause major heartbreak for 1 or both parties. Again, read JJ’s book if you want in depth detail on how to have a working sexual relationship without jealousy, possessiveness or heartbreak. This site will remain male-wrote for male-readers.
More soon, as promised.